With my dear school friends getting married these days; I have that feeling of insecurity within me. Yes, I am scared to utter that word 'marriage' and then imagine myself being married! What is that which scares me so much? Why do I feel that marriage is a burden, a melodramatic boredom and a journey too tiring to start?
Well, more than 75% of Indian young women share the same opinion. They either don't want to marry or just want years to live their lives to the fullest; before they get married. The prevailing orthodox norms of our society has left not much to harass our thoughts. Expectations are too high on both ends-the girl's side as well as the boy's side.
While family of a guy looks for a girl who is not merely good looking, fair and tall but also is well educated and has a job. On the other side, a girl's family hooks on to its old belief that a guy with a government job has stability in life and will be capable of bearing the burden of the family. Also, if he is a single child then it's an added advantage! The better the position of the guy, higher are his demands for dowry.
You can't blame modernism for the change in ideology of today's youth. It's the need of the hour and it's very much required that we break the old norms and walk our path. Love marriage in this aspect has helped channelise the thoughts and way of living of the 3G generation. But, again there are certain couple who in spite of being independent and residing in metro cities; can't take their stand and marry at their own will. Parents always are ready with one or other reason to go against them. They have their own explanations.
Recently, I had to go to my home town to attend my best childhood friend's wedding, but my parents denied my travelling from Delhi to home. They are anyway expecting me to be at home by the end of this month as they are meeting a guy and his family for my marriage. I am so not interested is what I want to speak out boldly but again-Circumstances have taken a hold on my nerves. I always wanted to speak out my heart to them about my decision on marrying the guy I like. But, never did I get a chance so likely to be 100% sure and confident of talking to them on this matter. Problems in my case are varied- My guy needs 2-3 years to settle. My parents are after my life to get me married by the end of this year.
So, all of this rounds back to the same point-I am scared of marriage! Hoping for a solution to sneak out from somewhere.
Well, more than 75% of Indian young women share the same opinion. They either don't want to marry or just want years to live their lives to the fullest; before they get married. The prevailing orthodox norms of our society has left not much to harass our thoughts. Expectations are too high on both ends-the girl's side as well as the boy's side.
While family of a guy looks for a girl who is not merely good looking, fair and tall but also is well educated and has a job. On the other side, a girl's family hooks on to its old belief that a guy with a government job has stability in life and will be capable of bearing the burden of the family. Also, if he is a single child then it's an added advantage! The better the position of the guy, higher are his demands for dowry.
You can't blame modernism for the change in ideology of today's youth. It's the need of the hour and it's very much required that we break the old norms and walk our path. Love marriage in this aspect has helped channelise the thoughts and way of living of the 3G generation. But, again there are certain couple who in spite of being independent and residing in metro cities; can't take their stand and marry at their own will. Parents always are ready with one or other reason to go against them. They have their own explanations.
Recently, I had to go to my home town to attend my best childhood friend's wedding, but my parents denied my travelling from Delhi to home. They are anyway expecting me to be at home by the end of this month as they are meeting a guy and his family for my marriage. I am so not interested is what I want to speak out boldly but again-Circumstances have taken a hold on my nerves. I always wanted to speak out my heart to them about my decision on marrying the guy I like. But, never did I get a chance so likely to be 100% sure and confident of talking to them on this matter. Problems in my case are varied- My guy needs 2-3 years to settle. My parents are after my life to get me married by the end of this year.
So, all of this rounds back to the same point-I am scared of marriage! Hoping for a solution to sneak out from somewhere.
